No Fat Talk Tuesday: Finding Your Identity

July 31, 2012

In last week’s No Fat Talk Tuesday, I talked about voicing and writing down the things that do not define us. Lies we believe about ourselves, our bodies, our abilities and our value. When I really meditate on it, there are a lot of lies I believe and a lot of things I think would bring me happiness, only to find out that those things don’t bring lasting fulfillment of any kind. For the longest time, I, like many women, fixated on my weight. Although I’ve gotten a lot better, I was still hanging on to the belief that if I lost 5 pounds my body would be at an idea weight and I would be so much happier.

Because of the stress of the past couple weeks, I accidentally lost those last 5 pounds, plus a couple more. I had reached that magical number in my mind, yet nothing was different. Sure, my clothes were a little looser, but that’s about the extent of the change I felt. So often in life, I think we tend to focus our time and energy fixated on one particular thing we think will bring us lasting joy and happiness because it’s easier than focusing on what is inside our hearts and minds that might be in need of changing. If I lost 5 pounds, had longer hair, a different work schedule, a nicer house, more friends. And yes, some of those things might be important, but what God’s really interested in is getting to our hearts and refining us into the people he wants us to become.

Lately, the Lord has been showing me the truth of who I am in Christ. Of what defines me as a person and gives me value on this earth. I’ve been reading through the Bible, finding greater understanding of God’s heart toward us and what he wants for us and our lives. It’s amazing how filled the Word is with affirmations of our value in Christ and our identity in Him. Here are a few I felt spoke to me:

John 1:12: “To all who received him, to those who believed in his name, he gave the right to become children of God.”

John 15:15″ “I no longer call you servants, because a servant does not know his master’s business, instead I have called you friends, for everything I have learned of my Father I have made known to
you. You did not choose me, but I chose you and appointed you to go and bear fruit – fruit that will last.”

Philippians 1:6: “…being confident of this, that he who began a good work in you will carry it on to the completion until the day of Christ Jesus.”

2 Timothy 1:7: “For God did not give us a spirit of timidity, but a spirit of power, of love and of self discipline.”

Romans 8:28: “And we know that in all things God works for the good of those who love him, who have been called according to his purpose.”

Ephesians 1:7-8: “In him we have redemption through his blood, the forgiveness of sins, in accordance with the riches of God’s grace that he lavished on us with all the wisdom and understanding.”

I found this site was a great resource of verses that talk about our identity in Christ. Once you’ve written down what doesn’t define you, it’s amazing to let the Word of God come into your heart and mind and tell you what does define you. For me, that’s my identity as God’s child, filled with value and worth not for what I’ve done or will do but because of who I am in Him.

Happy Tuesday!

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  • Reply Lindsay A July 31, 2012 at 1:13 pm

    Thank you for this post Madison! I have struggled with food issues for several years now. In college, I got down to a scary skinny weight and you are right…things still weren’t perfect though my weight was low. Now, i’ve become much more healthy after graduating and living back home but have gained a good bit of weight. I struggle everyday with negative thoughts about how much i’ve gained and wishing I could be the size I use to be, and beat myself up about not having self control. But I realize that i’m so off base when it comes to my purpose for living. We are not here on earth to be so consumed with selfish thoughts. Our purpose is to be a light of God’s grace and mercy. What kind of witness can I be when I hate my body and HIS creation! The verses you listed are so good. My idenity is in Christ Jesus, not a mental war that is lead by Satan. I’m so blessed to have found your blog that pours healthy thoughts into my head. You remind me so much of my sister who is always so encouraging and such a woman of God. Thank you for being a role model for me!

  • Reply Laura July 31, 2012 at 1:26 pm

    Thank you for this lovely reminder of our identity in Christ… and for the verses. Those are some great ones! Thank you also for the reminder to go to the Word for comfort and not to worldly things, which is so easy to do but never satisfying. This was a great read for me this Tuesday morning! Thanks!

  • Reply Aniequo Foxx July 31, 2012 at 1:42 pm

    This is a lovely post. Thank you for sharing this inspiration with us and helping me to remember that god is there and has a plan for everyone. šŸ™‚

  • Reply Stephanie @ Girl Versus Dough July 31, 2012 at 1:58 pm

    This is such an inspiring post, Madison. I completely empathize with you in that I think that if I just lost a little bit more weight, if my house looked nicer, if I had cuter clothes or more friends, THEN everything will feel right. THEN I’ll find that joy and happiness I’ve been looking for. But how encouraging is it that none of those things matter — that what matters most is our identity and our hearts in Christ. I need that reminder sometimes; so thanks. šŸ™‚

  • Reply Liz @ Tip Top Shape July 31, 2012 at 2:18 pm

    Such a wonderful and inspiring post šŸ˜€

  • Reply Melissa July 31, 2012 at 2:35 pm

    I’m right there with you. God is teaching me that only He can truly satisfy my cravings, not food, appearance, achievement or approval. Thanks for sharing!

  • Reply UrbanWife July 31, 2012 at 11:50 pm

    Thanks for sharing those verses. Such great reminders! p.s. I pray things are less stressful for you real soon. šŸ™‚

    • Reply Madison Mayberry August 1, 2012 at 2:04 pm

      Thank you, Iradis. I appreciate it. Things are looking up, and I’ll continue to pray that God provides. šŸ™‚

  • Reply natalie August 1, 2012 at 12:40 am

    this I know: my identity in Christ will always be more significant than my identity as a wife, my identity as a social worker, my identity as a graduate student, my identity as an adoptive mom, my identity as etc., etc., etc.

    • Reply Madison Mayberry August 1, 2012 at 2:03 pm

      What amazing truths! Thanks for sharing, Natalie!

  • Reply Kristin Twigg Darhower August 1, 2012 at 5:49 am

    Thank you for the inspiration. Every day is a battle it seems when I ask, “If I wore those size 2 jeans 2 years ago, why don’t they fit the same way now?”. I HATE that I allow my jeans to define me. It’s certainly a control issue.
    Reading posts like these gives me the inspiration I need.

  • Reply Cara Robles August 2, 2012 at 6:17 am

    Thank you for this reminder! It’s so easy to forget the truth amidst all the other thoughts swirling in our heads sometimes. I’m sorry things have been stressful and pray the Lord brings peace soonPr

  • Reply Niki Cade August 4, 2012 at 12:05 am

    This is such an amazing post. You remind me of what is really important in life and the things that we sometimes focus that is a waste of energy and stress. Thank you for the small reminders!:)

  • Reply Kelly August 13, 2012 at 7:09 pm

    So true and so good šŸ™‚

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