What I Wear: My Husband’s Observations

September 19, 2012

Last week I was browsing through my Google Reader (man, I start a lot of stories like this…) when I came across a post on Sarah’s blog that really caught my attention. Sarah had read a couple other posts by bloggers about dressing like a blogger vs. dressing for their husbands. The blogger Sarah mentioned had husbands with some pretty strong opinions about their fashion choices, which got me thinking about what I wear and what Joe thinks about what I wear.

To be honest, I’ve never really asked Joe what he thinks about my fashion choices. When I wear something he really likes, he’ll tell me how cute I look. And occasionally, he’ll mention lightly that I’m wearing something he thinks looks a little different. But overall, Joe is not one to make comments about fashion. In order to find out what he likes and doesn’t like about what I wear, I sat him down at the kitchen counter last week and asked him to lay out what he does and doesn’t like. His responses were really fun/funny and had me laughing the entire time. In no particular order…

What He Likes
*Shorter, flowy skirts
*The tall brown leather boots I wear in the fall
*My boyfriend jeans
*When I wear my diamond engagement ring (vs. the gold band I sometimes wear)
*Hair pulled back out of my face
*Bright colors
*Colored shorts
*When I wear mascara
*Matching socks? (my socks never match)
*Maxi dresses

What He Doesn’t Like
*My nerdy/big glasses
*My tall yellow rain boots
*Neutral colors
*Jean shorts

Is it just me, or do you find that list completely random? I think my favorite is the “matching socks” comment. I guess I’ll need to do a better job of pairing together my socks after they come out of the laundry instead of just picking two socks that fit my feet!

But in all seriousness, some of the bloggers who did this experiment decided after asking their husbands what they did/didn’t like decided to change the way they dresses or avoid wearing certain items of clothing around their husbands. Maybe I’m alone on this one, but I find that kind of crazy. Do I want Joe to think I’m beautiful and do I like to look nice for him? Absolutely! Am I about to quit wearing neutrals (which I love) just because they are on the list of things he doesn’t like? You bet not.

It was fun to play the game and have a few laughs over what he likes and doesn’t like, but I don’t think I’ll be turning in my rain boots next time it rains. And I’m still eyeing a pair of nerdy glasses I spotted online.

Ladies, what do you think? Would you (or have you) changed the way you dress for your man?Β 

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  • Reply Amanda Musser September 19, 2012 at 12:12 pm

    My husband is similar to Joe. I get a few more woo hoo’s and other compliments from skirts and maxis (of course), but he has never said what he doesn’t like. I am going to play this game!

  • Reply Urban Wife September 19, 2012 at 12:57 pm

    Haha, this totally made my morning. πŸ™‚ I never even thought about it that way. I am now curious and will be playing this game with my hubs.

  • Reply justinelorelle September 19, 2012 at 1:26 pm

    My Joe is kind of funny about the fashion he likes. In general, he likes anything that shows my legs or tight-fitting jeans (shocker). He likes when my hair is pulled back completely, but he also likes when I have bangs. But he rarely makes specific comments. Now you’ve sparked my curiosity and I might have to ask him directly!

  • Reply Laura September 19, 2012 at 1:27 pm

    Hahahaha. Glad I’m not the only style-conscious gal who doesn’t find matching their socks to be a great use of one’s time…

  • Reply Rachel @ The Avid Appetite September 19, 2012 at 1:36 pm

    This is really cute. It’s so funny because my husband does sometimes has opinions about what I wear…sometimes I take them into consideration, sometimes I don’t πŸ™‚ Mostly, he likes my hair to be long and prefers no make-up…though I LOVE make-up, so I still wear it a lot anyway!

  • Reply Tara @ Chip Chip Hooray September 19, 2012 at 1:36 pm

    I think my boyfriend normally feels like I don’t show off *enough*…his confidence in me is flattering, haha. πŸ˜‰ Specifically, though, I think dresses are a favorite, and my black heeled boots I wear in the fall/winter. I don’t think he’s a huge fan of the leggings trend. But now I’m curious too! πŸ™‚

  • Reply Danielle L. September 19, 2012 at 2:49 pm

    My husband, Sean, tends to react the same way that your husband does involving the clothing I wear. If there is something that he likes, he’ll be sure to point it out and if he thinks something isn’t me then he shares that with me as well. Of course he likes the standard tight jeans and he loves when I wear bright colors. Typical guy, haha.

    Thanks for the laugh this morning. I just recently started reading your blog and love it!


  • Reply Beth @ Slice of Southern September 19, 2012 at 2:53 pm

    What a cute post! Mine seems to do what your does, saying things are cute when he really likes them, and then giving a silent look when he’s not in to it….oh well! At least he likes them all for the most part, cause us girls put a lot of effort in to looking cute!

  • Reply Cindy Germann September 19, 2012 at 2:58 pm

    That is so funny! I hope my husband doesn’t mind neutrals, because that’s seriously all I wear. I should ask him, though. It would be fun to hear what he says.

    I love what you said about keeping what he likes in mind, but still wearing what YOU love and makes you feel good. I’m with you, girl!

  • Reply Cassandra September 19, 2012 at 3:07 pm

    When I started dating my husband he dressed VERY casually and I wore high heels almost every day so I started wearing jeans with tees and flats every day so I didn’t feel awkward around him. We got married and about a year into our marriage I realized I HATED the way I was dressing. It wasn’t me and now I was feeling awkward around most of my friends. So we actually had a talk where my husband agreed to up his closet a bit and I agreed to not go into full out high maintenance girl again. For the last two years it has worked wonders. Plus it turns out my husband didn’t really like how casual I had been dressing even though I assumed that was what he wanted (because it was how he dressed). I just wish I had spoken with my husband about it before I bought a bunch of plain and boring clothes.

  • Reply Sara September 19, 2012 at 4:38 pm

    i love this post! i’m going to have to ask my boyfriend this – but i agree, just because something isn’t his favorite – i’m going to do it anyways if i’m in the mood!

  • Reply Kristin September 19, 2012 at 5:42 pm

    Haha!! I’m with everyone else. I loved this post. My husband HATES skinnies and a few other types of clothes. I try to explain why I enjoy them but also balance the rest of my wardrobe with stuff he likes (and so do I). I’m with you, most days I dress in what I feel best in. That way I’m confident and better at loving those around me, including my husband! Thanks for sharing this!

  • Reply Meg Shamburger September 19, 2012 at 5:53 pm

    This post made me laugh, thanks for sharing! I grew up in a house full of boys so I was very clear (or at least in my mind) that boys really didn’t pay attention to what girls wear. And while I would say my fiancee doesn’t exactly have strong opinions on most fashion choices, I always do a double-take when he makes comments. Mostly he doesn’t like maxi dresses or turtlenecks and he prefers skirts and bright colors…always weird to me the things they focus on!

  • Reply Christina September 20, 2012 at 12:07 pm

    I love this!

    I agree with you: my husband does not dictate my fashion choices. I read some stupid book a long time ago about men vs. women, and learned that changing your outfits for him is like changing yourself, things you should never do. Confidence is key! Who cares what he thinks? As if spends as much time reading Vogue as watching football and knows about fashion, lol!

    Joe’s list is sweet πŸ™‚

  • Reply Clara Artschwager September 20, 2012 at 1:02 pm

    This is hilarious, but I can totally relate. And I agree with you, Brandon (my boyfriend), has some opinions about what he favors and doesn’t favor- but I’m not letting that dictate anything! Your tall yellow rain boots remind me of a really bright green pair of cropped pants I used to have from JCrew. Brandon would always comment on how bright they were, which was a subtle way of him saying he didn’t know how he felt about them. I just told them I wore them so he could always find me in case I got lost :). Ps love your style lady!

  • Reply Megly September 20, 2012 at 5:18 pm

    Love it! Just had this conversation with my boyfriend when we were shopping last week. One time he mentioned he didn’t like a shirt of mine “because of the polka dots” (which I love) so now I hesitate every time I consider buying something with polka dots… but then I ultimately always do πŸ˜‰

  • Reply Alex Meyer September 20, 2012 at 5:33 pm

    Such a cute post, Madison! I agree with not letting your husband dictate what you wear, but it is really funny to hear what he thinks. I actually ask my boyfriend about my clothing almost daily. He has a really good sense of what looks good – and his opinions are usually backed up by others. But I also don’t let him completely veto something if I love it :).

  • Reply Marisa September 20, 2012 at 7:52 pm

    Cute! My husband hates aquas and teals but I think they look great with my dark hair so I keep wearing them!

  • Reply Candice September 21, 2012 at 5:36 pm

    While pinning recipes this morning I came across your blog. What a fun idea to do with your husband! It is good to wear something they like and quite revealing to hear their opinions.
    You are such a cute girl…love your style. And your recipes!

  • Reply Natalie Lynn Borton September 26, 2012 at 2:14 pm

    I love that you did this! When Brian and I got married, I did something similar and also found some differences between what I like and what he likes on me. The biggest difference was my eggplant-colored vest. He thought it was super weird, but it’s one of my favorite things in my closet! He also likes me with side bangs and ponytails, haha. So random!

    I agree with you completely. While it’s good to take their opinions into consideration, it’s important to remain true to who we areβ€”even if that means mis-matched socks and eggplant vests πŸ™‚

    • Reply Madison Mayberry September 27, 2012 at 3:48 pm

      Good for you for sticking to the purple vest! πŸ™‚ It’s so funny what husbands like and dislike. Some of the things I was sure Joe wouldn’t like (such as my boyfriend jeans) he actually really loved. Crazy!

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