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After today, I plan to write one more post about miscarriage before I resume to a more normal posting schedule. I realize that not all of you are interested in reading about this topic, but I hope that someday you might be able to send links to these posts along to someone who is recovering from a miscarriage. Or perhaps you may, down the road, come back and re-read them yourself. I wish there wasn’t a need for such posts, but I don’t want to ignore the need, either.

One of the areas where I found the least amount of information was the physical recover post miscarriage. I had no idea what to expect, what I was going to feel, and how to recover in the wake of such a horrible experience. So, let’s get practical today and talk about the physical side instead of the more talked about emotional side.

Last time around, I opted to miscarry natural with the help of some medicine from my doctor. However, this time around I opted to have a D&C done (aka surgery) instead. For someone like me who hates surgery it was very scary, but the process was quick, relatively pain-free and gave me peace of mind that everything was cleared out and I could move forward with healing. It was one less thing to think about when my mind was already loaded down with things.Ultimately it’s a very personal decision that you have to make on your own, that’s just my experience.

Physically, I’ve been doing a few different things to help my body recover and prepare for the testing that is going to begin in the weeks to come. Here are a few things I am finding to be helpful (some of which I found to be helpful last time around, too):

1. I’m continuing to take my prenatal vitamin and added a few other vitamins to the mix. To combat blood loss, I added in an iron supplement and have been taking a Stress B-Complex, which contains 8 essential B vitamins that help with energy, boosting your immune system and nervous system health. I’ve also been taking a dose of vitamin D since our time in the sunshine has been limited and I could use a little mood booster.

2. I started acupuncture. In the three months leading up to getting pregnant this time around, I had started acupuncture to regulate my cycles. It helped, but for some reason I quit going, mainly because my doctor didn’t speak much English and I didn’t like not knowing what he was doing and what progress to expect. I’ve re-committed to going to acupuncture regularly, this time with a new doctor that I really love, while we deal with this miscarriage mystery. It does wonders on my stress levels and I strongly believe in the healing properties of alternative/complimentary medicine. This time around, my acupuncturist specializes in fertility issues and carrying babies to full-term, so I feel more at peace about the care I’m receiving.

3. I’ve lined up testing to try and diagnose potential issues that are causing our miscarriages. Our doctors, as I’ve mentioned, are amazing and supportive and believe strongly that having two consecutive miscarriages isn’t normal. I feel so much peace about the practice God placed us in, and am truly looking forward to getting some answers about what could be at the root of the problem. Side note: If you have any resources for reading up on multiple miscarriages, I would love for you to send them my way! I want to be well-informed leading up to our appointment.

4. Since the miscarriage, I’ve been focusing a lot on eating plenty of whole, plant-based foods with a healthy amount of protein mixed into my meals. Lots of fruits and veggies have been consumed, a small amount of sugar and caffeine and a small amount of lean protein in the form of fish and chicken. I’m giving my body what it needs to heal and recover in the best way I know how.

5. I added drinking Red Raspberry Leaf Tea to my daily routine, usually 2 to 3 cups a day. It’s said to help restore regular menstrual cycles and tone the uterus (whatever that means…) and I figure it certainly can’t hurt! When possible, I tend to gravitate toward natural and alternative options. I realize that’s not always an option, but I do what I can. If you’re interested in red raspberry leaf tea, I suggest you do a little research online. There is SO much information out there about it, certainly more than I can cover right now.

6. This time around one of the worst physical parts of the process has been the extra 3-4 pounds I gained in the first timester that I now have to loose. I didn’t exercise at all for the first week after the D&C, but I’ve recently felt ready to get back to the gym and keep my body moving. This is both for my physical state, so I can feel strong and healthy again, and my mental state. There are few things that are as healing to me as a good sweat session at the gym with my favorite guy. I am not pushing my body to the max, since that seems counter intuitive to what I’m doing to heal and build-up my body, but I am sweating and working out again.

If you’ve personally experienced miscarriage, any tips on physical recovery are welcome below! I would love to have a comprehensive list for people who come back to read this post down the road.
Madison

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  • http://www.keepitsweetdesserts.com/ Lauren at Keep It Sweet

    I’ve heard so many good things about acupuncture. I actually tried it once and wasn’t a huge fan but I think it was because of the doctor, not the acupuncture itself. There are so many success stories for women who have had many different fertility issues.

    I actually gained a few pounds in the months leading up to getting pregnant which drove me insane (hormone related issues from pills I took). I had to keep reminding myself that a few extra pounds was only temporary and a part of a more important process. Don’t put too much pressure on yourself with your weight, do what feels best for your body!

    • MadisonMayberry

      I have really, really loved acupuncture.It’s one of those things where it is really hard to know if it is “working” unlike traditional medicine where results are pretty immediate and easy to track. I think that’s the hardest thing about it, but I’m giving it the benefit of the doubt. :) And yes, the extra weight drives me crazy, too, but I’m trying to remember that it took 12 weeks to put on the extra few pounds and it will take a little while to return back to my normal self.

  • Heather Disarro

    Honestly it sounds like you’re doing all the right things; after my D&C I was told not to exercise vigorously for 6 weeks (something like that) and I didn’t. I just took to walking for about an hour a day. I felt like it helped me think and work through a lot of the stuff in my heart, in addition to staying as active as I felt comfortable doing.

    • MadisonMayberry

      Wow! I was told I could go back to normal activities and exercising as soon as I felt ready. Crazy how different doctor’s advice can be, isn’t it?! I am really trying to do a better job of connecting to my body and working through my emotions in the aftermath. It’s not easy to “love my body” during a time when I feel like it has “failed” me, if you will, but I”m trying to remember that this is exactly where God wants me to be right now, and I’m here for a purpose. It’s not my body failing me that is the issue. Anyway, I’m getting rambly. But thanks for your sweet comment, Heather!

  • http://lovekblair.blogspot.com/ Katie Hall

    I have not personally experienced miscarriage, but I do have some ideas of what helped me to get pregnant after trying and failing for so long. The biggest change I made was to actually stop exercising all together, which was a huge change for me. I cut back on it a lot, but after that didn’t work, I decided to completely stop after going to an inservice at work (put on by an MD) where I learned that women going through IVF have a significantly decreased chance of conceiving if they even moderately exercise 20 minutes a day. I also increased my fat intake. I probably gained at least 5 lbs in the month before I got pregnant, its my understanding that increasing your weight can raise your estradiol level if you are on the low side of a normal weight or under weight. These are just my opinions and obviously my own experience. I think acupuncture is AWESOME though and I’m so glad you’re going! I also drink red raspberry leaf tea!

    • MadisonMayberry

      It’s crazy because there are SO many different pieces of advice out there, isn’t it? On the one hand, I’ve read that if a thyroid problem is causing the miscarriages, then exercising is one of the best things I can do for my body. And if it is PCOS then keeping weight in check and even losing a few pounds can be a good idea. But if it is low progesterone and hormonal imbalances then it would be good to exercise and stress the body less? Goodness! I guess I will just have to wait until we start testing to really know what’s best for me, but I’m trying to listen to my body the best I can and do what feels right. I finally returned to hot yoga last night and that certainly felt divine!

  • http://livefaithfully.blogspot.com/ Urban Wife

    You’re doing really great things to help with recovery! I remember just wanting to get back into my normal routine of running and working out, a few weeks after my miscarriage. I also took Vitamin D3 and cut out caffeine. I’ve heard great things about acupuncture! That’s awesome you’ve found someone that will advocate and understand your specific situation.
    xo

    • MadisonMayberry

      Even though coffee sounds good again, I’ve been drinking more decaf and trying to only have a single cup of caffeinated coffee each day, since I love it so much and can go overboard but know it isn’t good for me. :)

  • PollyS

    Thank you for sharing your experience. I trust it helps you with your healing.
    My
    road to motherhood was a bumpy one as well. Infertility, multiple
    miscarriages and a the death of a newborn to Trisomy 18 is a part of me.
    I’m not sure I’d say that I am a better person for it, but these
    experiences are a part of who I am, part of God’s plan for my life. I
    accept them with the Grace and love that He has given to me in all
    situations. So if for no other reason, I can say that I know what you’ve
    been through. It is no bed of roses, but is your path for a reason.
    I’d
    like to make one suggestion. I take (and used to sell) a supplement
    juice called Limu. It is an all natural vitamin drink made from seaweed.
    It is very powerful anti oxidant that basically fills in the gaps left
    from our food and nutrition. I have heard of several ladies that have
    easily achieved healthy, full term pregnancies after taking Limu.
    I
    would highly suggest you and your husband both take it. You, for while
    you heal and prepare your body for pregnancy. And your husband, well,
    you know!
    You can find distributors almost every where for Limu. But
    if you have problems I can put you in touch with someone that can help
    you. I truly believe in this product.

    • MadisonMayberry

      Thank you so much, Polly! I so appreciate your comment and your suggestion! I’ll look into it for sure!

  • anonymous

    I just wanted to say that I”m so sorry for what you’re going through but I am so impressed by how you’re working through it, and what a wonderful thing you’re doing it by sharing your story with others. I am hoping a baby is in your future soon. You and Joe deserve it.

    • MadisonMayberry

      Thank you so much! It’s been incredibly helpful to write about the experience and I think it is helping with the emotional processing. I hope someday this can be of help to someone else.

  • http://www.dessertfortwo.com/ DessertForTwo

    You are so brave to talk about this so much. I’m so sorry for your loss. I know that you are making a difference in someone’s life with your story.

    much love to you + Joe :)

  • Laura

    I’m so glad that you are going to acupuncture! It’s so amazing.

  • Shamim

    I am so very sorry for your loss. You and Joe have my best wishes and prayers for becoming parents to a beautiful bundle(s) of joy very soon. Thank you for sharing your story so that others could benefit and not feel so alone during a difficult time like this. I have been reading your blog for a few years now and I am always impressed and inspired with the quality of content that you provide. Thank you for that Madison. Take care.

    Best regards,

    -Shamim

  • Irene

    I don’t have very much to add to the conversation other than my sincere wishes for a fast physical and emotional recovery for both you and your husband. I am glad you are getting some testing done, I don’t know much about it but from anecdotal evidence it really seems that there really is a lot that can be done once you know the root of the problem. Please just be kind to yourself and don’t push too hard with exercise or worrying about a perfect diet! You are doing the most important thing by getting more information and I really hope everything else will follow.

  • Sarah Crosby

    I love that you have shared your experience. Not loving that you had to go through it but miscarriage is something that is only talked about when someone goes through it but then never talked about again. It was and even still is so healing (emotionally) to be able to chat about it.

    I didn’t have a D&C but used Cytotec to help me deliver at home. I honestly wished someone had told me how painful it was going to be. I had even had a baby previously without an epidural so naively I thought I would be just fine. I don’t regret doing it that way but the pain accompanied by all of my emotions was a lot all at once.

    I also had two friends both who miscarried 3 times in a row and one had an endocrinologist follow her until 16ish weeks just to make sure her thyroid levels were ok. Colt and Blakely were both born this year from those two friends. If you have any specific questions they are both amazing women of the Lord who would be willing to answer anything you have!

    HUGS!