Confident + Kind

October 12, 2015

Screen Shot 2015-10-12 at 7.40.16 AMAs Ainsley gets older I’ve been thinking a lot about what I want her to be. Not about the vocation she chooses or the activities she participates in as the grows, but the important things that make the core of her being. We pray over Ainsley daily, but we always pray for her out loud before bed together as a family. The words that keep coming back to me are “confident & kind.” My prayer for you, sweet Ainsley, is that you’re confident in who God created you to be and kind to people from every walk of life.

Joe says that each one of us is best at practicing that which we struggle most with. I’m positive that’s true. Now that I’m a mom, I’ve become more reflective. I’ve thought about times when I haven’t been confident enough to be the person I feel called to be, or when I haven’t had the confidence to go sit with someone who is alone because I’ve been too preocupied with my own insecurities.

I see kiddos who have differences, both minor and major, and I think about the heartbreak that parents experience when other kids use those differences to make fun of another kid or tear them down. Guys? It breaks my heart. Perhaps it’s because I got a little glimpse already into having a baby that’s “different” with her little skin tags by her ears and her tiny gap that we repaired in the corner of her lip. She was just an infant, oblivious to those differences, and she’ll never remember that as part of her story. But I pray every day that when she encounters children who are different than she is that she is includes them, brings them into the game or group, and can see past the differences to find common ground.

I’m also realizing that this parenting business is weighty stuff, isn’t it? If I want Ainsley to be confident and kind, to include and affirm others, then I need to do a better job of modeling that behavior in my own life. I feel SO convicted of all the times that I’ve fallen short, and so inspired to continue to ask God for the strength and capacity to model these things to my baby girl.

I’ve been thinking of taking these words and using them as artwork in Ainsley’s new room, both as a reminder to her and to me + Joe that we should strive to model true confidence in the form of humility and kindness to everyone we come in contact with.

On that note, does anyone have any great parenting books to recommend? I’m talking less about tactical books and more about general concepts, faith-based parenting and the like? I’m all ears!


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  • Reply Heather Disarro October 12, 2015 at 3:23 pm

    Isn’t it crazy how heavy parenting can be sometimes? I love these words that you’re feeling for A though, and God will use them greatly in her life. A really great book that I’m reading a billion times over again right now is The Christian Parenting Handbook by Dr. Scott Turansky and Joanne Miller. It may not apply to A a whole lot right now, but it’s got some really solid practical Scripture-based ideas for parenting!

  • Reply Brittney October 12, 2015 at 7:35 pm

    Give Them Grace by Elyse Fitzpatrick is on my list to read soon. Although I haven’t read it yet, I’ve heard great things.

    • Reply ali grace | cookies and grace October 12, 2015 at 10:41 pm

      Yes yes! Elyse Fitzpatrick is wonderful. I haven’t read it either, but several friends recommend it highly!

      • Reply Shanna October 12, 2015 at 11:12 pm

        One more yes to this book!

  • Reply ali grace | cookies and grace October 12, 2015 at 10:40 pm

    This is so sweet, Madison! I pray for the same things if/when we ever have a little girl. And yes to Give Them Grace by Elyse Fitzpatrick. I’m not a mommy, but I adore everything Elyse does and several of my mom friends recommend it highly!

  • Reply Laura October 12, 2015 at 11:58 pm

    No More Perfect Mom’s Jill Savage

  • Reply Urban Wife October 13, 2015 at 2:23 am

    I love how you intentionally pray with and over Ainsley! It’s a great reminder for me to be more consistent about it with our kids.

    A few faith-based parenting books I have on my to-read list, which I’ve heard great things about: Grace Based Parenting (Dr. Tim Kimmel), Shepherding a Child’s Heart (Tedd Tripp), and Parenting Isn’t for Cowards (Dr. James Dobson).

  • Reply Ashley October 14, 2015 at 6:30 pm

    I’ve heard great things about _In This House, We Will Giggle_ by Courtney DeFeo…I haven’t read it yet, but it’s on my book list!

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